
Anochi- The First Yes: How Acceptance Transforms Your Relationship with God, Yourself, and Your Spouse
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This post is part of a series exploring the Aseres Hadibros and their application to our three core relationships.
Some things in life don’t live in neat compartments.
They blend and overlap- like your relationship with yourself, your spouse, and Hashem.
The Aseres Hadibros aren’t isolated commands. They’re a living system grounded in three intertwined relationships:
- G-d
- Self
- Spouse
Each nourishes the others. And we begin where everything does- with the first Dibbur.
The First Dibbur: Presence, Not Performance
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“I am Hashem, your G-d…”
Hashem doesn’t begin with a rule. He begins with presence.
Not “I command,” but “I am.”
Not “the G-d,” but “your G-d.”
This is a relationship, not a test. A Divine invitation, not a demand.
At its root, Anochi means acceptance- the foundation of all growth.
With Hashem: Acceptance as Divine Presence
Before any mitzvah is asked of you, Hashem is already present. Already yours. Already saying yes.
This is emunah- not blind belief, but intimate trust.
Try this:
Pause and whisper:
“You are here. And so am I.”
Let that be enough- even in the middle of chaos.
With Yourself: Acceptance as Grounding
So much inner struggle comes from resisting who we are.
Like how I kept delaying this email… wanting it to be “just right.”
But Anochi whispers: You are already worthy. Already held. Already claimed.
Growth doesn’t start with self-judgment. It starts with self-trust.
Try this:
Catch a moment of self-criticism. Place your hand on your chest and say:
“Even this version of me belongs.”
With Your Spouse: Acceptance as Space-Making
This one is tender.
Because real intimacy requires room to simply be.
Acceptance isn’t resignation, it’s creating space for your spouse to show up as they are.
In Becoming One, we call this the Two World Model—allowing both people to exist as full, distinct individuals within one shared relationship.
Try this:
Notice one small thing your spouse did today and say:
“I see you.”
That’s it. Sometimes that’s everything.
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This Is Where It Begins
Acceptance is not the end goal.
It’s the fertile ground from which real transformation grows.
Say yes:
To Hashem.
To yourself.
To someone you love.
To this moment- just as it is.